Allah the Exalted said:
رياض الصالحينAbū Zakariyyā Muḥyī al-Dīn Yaḥyā ibn Sharaf al-Nawawī٣٥ - باب حق الزوج على المرأة
٣٥ - باب حق الزوج على المرأة
Men are in charge of women1 by [right of] what Allāh has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allāh would have them guard.2 But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance3 - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them [lightly].4 But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allāh is ever Exalted and Grand.
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As for the hadiths, among them is the hadith of ʿAmr ibn al-Aḥwaṣ, which preceded in the chapter before this one.
وعن أَبي هريرة - ﵁ - قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُول الله - ﷺ: «إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امرَأتَهُ إِلَى فرَاشِهِ فَلَمْ تَأتِهِ، فَبَاتَ غَضْبَانَ عَلَيْهَا، لَعَنَتْهَا المَلائِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبحَ». مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيهِ. وفي رواية لهما: «إِذَا بَاتَت المَرأةُ هَاجِرَةً فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا لَعَنَتْهَا المَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبحَ». وفي رواية قَالَ رَسُول الله - ﷺ: «والَّذِي نَفْسِي بيَدِهِ مَا مِنْ رَجُلٍ يَدْعُو امْرَأتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشهِ فَتَأبَى عَلَيهِ إلاَّ كَانَ الَّذِي في السَّمَاء سَاخطًا عَلَيْهَا حَتَّى يَرْضَى عَنها».
And on the authority of Abū Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: «When a man calls his wife to his bed and she does not come to him, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.» Agreed upon. And in a narration of the two of them (al-Bukhārī and Muslim): «When a woman spends the night having forsaken her husband's bed, the angels curse her until morning.» And in a narration the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: «By the One in whose Hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses him except that the One who is in heaven is displeased with her until he is pleased with her.»
وعن أَبي هريرة - ﵁ - أيضًا: أنَّ رَسُول الله - ﷺ - قَالَ: «لاَ يَحِلُّ لامْرَأةٍ أَنْ تَصُومَ وزَوْجُهَا شَاهدٌ إلاَّ بإذْنِهِ، وَلاَ تَأذَنَ في بَيْتِهِ إلاَّ بِإذنِهِ». مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيهِ وهذا لفظ البخاري.
And on the authority of Abū Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him) also: that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: «It is not lawful for a woman to fast while her husband is present except with his permission, nor to admit anyone into his house except with his permission.» Agreed upon, and this is the wording of al-Bukhārī.
وعن ابن عمر ﵄، عن النَّبيّ - ﷺ - قَالَ: «كلكم رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ: وَالأمِيرُ رَاعٍ، والرَّجُلُ رَاعٍ عَلَى أهْلِ بَيتِهِ، وَالمَرْأةُ رَاعِيةٌ عَلَى بَيْتِ زَوْجها وَوَلَدهِ، فَكُلُّكُمْ رَاعٍ، وَكُلُّكُمْ مَسْؤُولٌ عَنْ رَعِيَّتِهِ». مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيهِ.
And on the authority of Ibn ʿUmar (may Allah be pleased with them both), from the Prophet ﷺ, who said: «Each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock: the ruler is a shepherd, the man is a shepherd over the people of his household, and the woman is a shepherdess over the house of her husband and his child. So each of you is a shepherd, and each of you is responsible for his flock.» Agreed upon.
وعن أَبي علي طَلْق بن علي - ﵁: أنَّ رَسُول الله - ﷺ - قَالَ: «إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ زَوْجَتهُ لحَاجَتِهِ فَلْتَأتِهِ وَإنْ كَانَتْ عَلَى التَّنُور ». رواه الترمذي والنسائي، وَقالَ الترمذي: «حديث حسن صحيح».
And on the authority of Abū ʿAlī Ṭalq ibn ʿAlī (may Allah be pleased with him): that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: «When a man calls his wife for his need, let her come to him, even if she is at the oven.» Narrated by al-Tirmidhī and al-Nasāʾī, and al-Tirmidhī said: «A good and sound hadith.»
وعن أَبي هريرة - ﵁ - عن النَّبيّ - ﷺ - قَالَ: «لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لأحَدٍ لأمَرْتُ المَرأةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لزَوجِهَا». رواه الترمذي، وَقالَ: «حديث حسن صحيح».
And on the authority of Abū Hurayra (may Allah be pleased with him), from the Prophet ﷺ, who said: «Were I to command anyone to prostrate to anyone, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband.» Narrated by al-Tirmidhī, and he said: «A good and sound hadith.»
وعن أم سَلَمَة ﵂، قَالَتْ: قَالَ رسولُ الله - ﷺ: «أيُّمَا امْرَأةٍ مَاتَتْ، وَزَوْجُهَا عَنْهَا رَاضٍ دَخَلَتِ الجَنَّةَ». رواه الترمذي، وَقالَ: «حديث حسن».
And on the authority of Umm Salama (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: «Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her shall enter Paradise.» Narrated by al-Tirmidhī, and he said: «A good hadith.»
وعن معاذ بن جبل - ﵁ - عن النَّبيّ - ﷺ - قَالَ: «لاَ تُؤْذِي امْرَأةٌ زَوْجَهَا في الدُّنْيَا إلاَّ قَالَتْ زَوْجَتُهُ مِنَ الحُورِ العِينِ لاَ تُؤذِيهِ قَاتَلكِ اللهُ! فَإِنَّمَا هُوَ عِنْدَكِ دَخِيلٌ يُوشِكُ أَنْ يُفَارِقَكِ إِلَيْنَا». رواه الترمذي، وَقالَ: «حديث حسن».
And on the authority of Muʿādh ibn Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him), from the Prophet ﷺ, who said: «No woman harms her husband in this world except that his wife among the wide-eyed maidens of Paradise (ḥūr al-ʿīn) says: 'Do not harm him—may Allah destroy you! For he is only a guest with you, soon to part from you and come to us.'» Narrated by al-Tirmidhī, and he said: «A good hadith.»
وعن أسامة بن زيد ﵄، عن النَّبيّ - ﷺ - قَالَ: «مَا تَرَكْتُ بَعْدِي فِتْنَةً هِيَ أضَرُّ عَلَى الرِّجَالِ مِنَ النِّساء». مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيهِ.
And on the authority of Usāma ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with them both), from the Prophet ﷺ, who said: «I have not left behind me any trial more harmful to men than women.» Agreed upon.